Self-Care For The Modern Man
Lucy Thorpe
Feb 3, 2022
7 mins reading

Self-Care For The Modern Man

It’s never been more important to take care of yourself and your own well-being. Against a backdrop of the pandemic, burnout, and health anxiety, it’s estimated that 1 in 8 men in England has a common mental health problem. Men are more likely to report lower levels of life satisfaction than women in general.

Societal pressures and toxic masculinity all play their part in men feeling under pressure, unable to talk about the way they feel, and without a way to truly take care of their mind, body, and emotions for their own health. This needs to change. It’s time for men to feel able to ensure that their holistic needs are met and to be able to put more thought into building healthy routines.

If you’ve never thought about self-care, or have decided that it isn’t something for you, then it’s time to open up the conversation about how men can (and should) enjoy self-care, and how it should be something that you can incorporate across your life.

The Value Of Self-Care

What comes to mind when you think about self-care? A spa day? Candles and a bubble bath? An early night or healthy eating? While these can all be types of self-care, it actually goes much further than that. 

Self-care means taking care of yourself so that you can stay healthy, happy, and well. It’s about recharging, recentering, and achieving a balance between your physical, mental, and emotional needs. It’s taking the time to do what makes you feel your best and ready to handle life in a calm and resilient way.  

When it comes to self-care, there are a few different forms it can take. For some, it centres on wellness and healthy habits. This could be eating healthily, getting regular exercise, spending time outdoors, cutting out alcohol, taking up meditation, speaking to a therapist, or as simple as just getting enough sleep.   

All of these activities have a positive impact on your health and life. They also release dopamine — also known as the body’s ‘happy hormone’ — in the body, which helps to boost your mood and build up habits.

Self-care isn’t just about traditionally ‘healthy’ activities either. Self-esteem, confidence and self-worth all go hand-in-hand with self-care too. Sometimes taking extra effort to look and feel your best can make a huge difference to your daily life too. 

Whether it’s taking five minutes extra in the morning to style your hair, jumping in a sauna at the gym or taking the time to start a skincare routine, sometimes just taking time for yourself is the biggest act of self-care you can give yourself.  

The Indirect Value Of Routine

43% of men in the UK admit to regularly feeling low. This is where self-care, healthy habits and routines can really benefit to help as a mood-booster and to help with your overall wellbeing. Building up a regular routine of things that make you feel good can really benefit how you feel.  

Building up positive routines can help with your overall well being along with things like coping with change, improving relationships and reducing stress. They can also help you to feel a sense of achievement and accomplishment, along with releasing natural endorphins in the body. They can also support lifestyle changes and switching things up if you feel like you’re in a rut.

You can turn almost anything into a self-care routine and a healthy habit. Whether it’s a tried-and-tested ritual you have before a big game or meeting, making more of an effort with your exercise routine or helping yourself to alleviate stress it’s important to remember that it doesn’t need to be complicated. Forming habits can be quite simple.

If you’re someone who struggles to maintain a routine, or starts out with the best of intentions but soon finds themselves falling back into old habits, then here are some tips on how to stick with a routine:

  • Be realistic. Sometimes starting small and building it up is far more sustainable than going all in, and saying you’ll go for a run at 6:00 am might be hard work if you’re more of a night owl.

  • Set small goals and targets for yourself. This can make your routine feel less overwhelming than looking at one distant goal.

  • Make a plan for how you’re going to achieve your end goals.

  • Be consistent with your time, and if you miss a day, get straight back on it.

  • Track your progress and have some rewards in mind.

Once you’ve built up the habit it’ll start to feel like it’s second nature, rather than something you have to stick to. If you want to read more about the psychology and skills behind building habits, James Clear’s bestselling book ‘Atomic Habits’ is a great place to start.

Building Self-Care Habits

At Humānery, we want to help men to look and feel good about themselves. Part of this is learning to build your own self-care habits around your skin, body and hair. These routines are part of health, hygiene, looking good, and feeling great. It’s about building confidence, self-worth, and self-belief by investing in yourself and building up easy routines that you can stick to.

If you need a helping hand to start building up your self-care routines, then we’ve got it covered. 

Build Your Skincare Routine

Whether you have specific skin concerns, or you just want to take a little better care of yourself then a skincare routine is the perfect place to start. It doesn’t need to take up a huge amount of your time and can really boost how you feel.

A skincare routine can help with acne, signs of ageing, redness, dry skin, oily skin - you name it, there’s a skincare solution for it. It can also help to keep your skin clean, clear and healthy along with boosting your overall appearance.

If you want to start with the basics, it can be as simple as two steps. Cleansing and moisturising twice a day is one of the best ways to get started, and can make a huge difference to your skin. Once you’re comfortable with that, you can start to add in other products to help with specific skin concerns. An exfoliator, toner, eye cream, or a face mask can be an excellent next step to elevate your routine.

Need some help building your skincare routine? Our Skincare Collection can be filtered by routine essentials so you can find your perfect steps.

Build Your Beard & Shave Routine

Taking care of your facial hair is one of the easiest ways to look more groomed and gain a massive confidence boost. If you usually give your beard a once-over with a disposable razor and leave it at that, you’ll be surprised at how great some extra steps like a post-shave balm, shaving cream, or beard oil can feel.

Even if you start out with a shaving gel and a good-quality razor, just taking the time to focus on yourself and your own well-being can feel like an indulgent self-care treat. This can also help to stop shaving rashes, ingrown hairs, and discomfort, which can all have an impact on your confidence and self-image.

Over time, you can start to incorporate extras (if you want to) such as shaving creams, beard oils or hydrating post-shave balms. These can all turn shaving from a daily chore into a self-care routine that you look forward to.

Looking to discover beard and shave routines for self-care? Filter our Beard & Shave Collection by routine essentials to build your ideal facial hair routine.

Build Your Hair Care Routine

A great haircut and hair care routine to match can seriously elevate your confidence and well-being. It’s time to step away from the shower gel and start using shampoo and conditioner on your hair, to help keep your scalp healthy and your hair shiny and manageable. Using the right styling products makes a massive difference to your look too.

Whatever your hair type and style, there’s a hair routine that will work for you. You’ll also be amazed at how just spending a few minutes more on your hair can make you feel. There’s a reason that everyone wants to skip a bad hair day. Hair gels, pomade, styling sprays and volume boosters can all help to lift your hair care game right up there.

If hair loss or thinning hair is making you feel insecure, then taking a little extra time on your hair can make a big difference to your well-being. It’s important not to make it the sole focus of your time, but feeling more confident can make you feel happier and more comfortable in your skin.

If you’re ready to take your hair care routine to the next level, filter our Hair Care and Hair Styling Collection to find your perfect fit.

Build Your Bath & Body Care Routine

Whether you’re into showers, baths or both, they’re one of the best — and easiest — ways to add a little self-care into your daily routine. You can take your time to cleanse your skin properly with hydrating, nourishing products that smell great and help you enjoy some relaxation. The right products can make it feel like a mini steam room, which has great benefits for your skin too.

When it comes to hygiene, using a body wash is essential and should be part of your everyday routine. This cleans dirt and bacteria from the skin, leaving your pores clean and your body smelling fresh. If you’re into a bath, adding in oils, bath salts or scents can really boost your self-care benefits.

Ready to take it a step further? Start adding an exfoliating scrub and a body moisturiser into your routine. This will help with dry or rough skin, blocked pores and ingrown hairs. The act of taking a little extra time to massage your body with moisturiser is great for self-care, you’ll smell great too.

Want to elevate your bath and body care routine? Try filtering our Bath & Body Collection to discover your self-care essentials.

What To Do If Self-Care Isn’t Enough?

If you’ve tried to do it alone, and self-care isn’t going far enough, then it’s time to speak up and get help. The great news is that men are more likely to seek help from others when they need it than in the past. You don’t need to struggle in silence and there’s nothing wrong with reaching out for extra help if you need it. There’s nothing to be ashamed of or worried about.

Speak to a trusted friend, family member or seek out some professional help if you’d prefer some extra help with how you feel. You may find help from attending a support group in your area. There are also anonymous helplines if you just feel like you need someone to talk to: